Para se te martohen dhe duke u zotuar per te shpenzuar pjesen tjeter te jetes tende me dike, ka disa gjera kryesore qe duhet te dini per ate person. Me poshte jane nje liste e tete gjera qe ju duhet te diskutojne para duke thene se 'une'.

1. Money: Kjo eshte nje nga gjerat me te rendesishme per te diskutuar para se te martohen, sepse eshte numer nje arsye qe njerezit divorc. Ju dhe partneri juaj jeten e te ardhmen duhet te flasin rreth asaj se si ju do te kombinohen te ardhurat dhe shpenzimet e aksioneve. Ne nje martese, nje person zakonisht eshte pergjegjes per te paguar faturat cdo muaj. Dy prej jush duhet te jete i vetedijshem per zakonet e shpenzimeve te tjera. Ju duhet gjithashtu te flasin rreth asaj se si shume e parave do te vihet ne kursime, 401 K, te daljes ne pension dhe investime te tjera. Definitely flasin per borxhin tuaj dhe si do te menaxhoje kete detyrim, si nje cift.

2. Komunikimi: Flisni, flisni, flisni. Komunikimi eshte nje baze te lumtur, marteses se shendoshe, gjate te qendrueshme. Komunikoni para se te martohen dhe pasi ju merrni martuar. Asnjehere mos komunikimi ne lidhje me ate qe eshte e rendesishme per ju. Ne nje martese, asgje nuk eshte shume e madhe ose shume e vogel per te biseduar rreth.

3. Pune: pergjegjesite e deleguar dhe pune te tilla si paguajne faturat, pazar, duke ecur qen, pastrimi i shtepise. Nje nga ju do te qendroni ne shtepi me femijet, ndersa vepra te tjera?

4. Femije: Para se te martohen, ju dhe te fejuarin tuaj duhet patjeter te jete ne te njejten faqe per femijet. Nese ju doni femijet, sa? Nese ju nuk mund te kete femije, ky informacion duhet patjeter te zbulohet para se te ju lidhe nyje. A doni te miratuar, mbeten pa femije, perdorni nje zevendesues, ose ne fertilizimi in vitro? Nese bashkeshorti juaj ka femije nga nje tjeter lidhje, ju duhet patjeter te diskutuar se si femijet do te jene parented. Ju duhet te flisni edhe per stilin tuaj te disiplines. Duke folur per keto gjera para se te martohen, do t'ju sjelle nje bote te paqes poshte vijes.

5. Shpresat: Para se te martohen, te flasim rreth ku ju shihni marteses tuaj ne afatshkurter dhe afatgjate te ardhmen. Gjithashtu, flasin rreth ku shihni veten tuaj. Komunikimi ne lidhje me kete ne fillim me do t'ju ndihmoje te dy punojne ne drejtim te permbushjes se pritshmerite e njeri-tjetrit ne martesen tuaj.

6. Sex: Nese ju jeni nje person qe ka nevoje per seks ne baza ditore, partneri te ardhmen tuaj te jetes duhet ta dine kete perpara. Nese keni shpresa ne dhome gjumi, komunikojne hapur per nevojat tuaja. Nuk eshte ne te njejten faqe per seksin ne martese tuaj mund te hape deren deri ne nje shume te lenduar.

7. Besimet: Jini te hapur ne lidhje me besimet fetare. Dy prej jush duhet te percaktoje nese ju do te marrin pjese ne kishe si nje cift ose si familje. Ju duhet te flisni per ndikimin se feja do te kete ne rritjen e femijeve tuaj. A jeni i gatshem te beje kompromis besimet tuaja fetare apo jeni i palekundur ne fene tuaj.

8. Vendndodhja: Ju duhet te diskutuar se ku do te banojne pasi ju jeni te martuar. A doni te jetoni ne nje qytet?

Komunikimi ne lidhje me keto gjera jane te martuar para tuaj do t'ju ndihmoje te ndertojme nje baze solide per martesen tuaj, ose mund te ndihmoje tuaj te kuptojne se personi juaj jane te marteses nuk mund te jete e drejte per ju.

Before getting married and pledging to spend the rest of your life with someone, there are some key things that you should know about that person. Below are a list of eight things that you should discuss before saying 'I do'.

1. Money: This is one of the most important things to discuss before getting married, because it is the number one reason that people divorce. You and your future life partner need to talk about how you will combine incomes and share expenses. In a marriage, one person is usually responsible for paying the bills each month. The two of you should be aware of the other's spending habits. You should also talk about how much money will be put into savings, 401 K, retirement and other investments. Definitely talk about your debt and how will you manage this obligation as a couple.

2. Communication: Talk, talk, talk. Communication is the foundation to a happy, healthy, long-lasting marriage. Communicate before you get married and after you get married. Never stop communicating about what is important to you. In a marriage, nothing is too large or too small to be talked about.

3. Jobs: Delegate responsibilities and jobs such as paying bills, shopping, walking the dog, cleaning the house. Will one of you stay at home with the children, while the other works?

4. Children: Before getting married, you and your fiance should definitely be on the same page about children. If you want kids, how many? If you can't have children, this information should definitely be disclosed before you tie the knot. Do you want to adopt, remain childless, use a surrogate or in vitro fertilization? If your spouse has children from another relationship, you should definitely discuss how the children will be parented. You should even talk about your discipline styles. Talking about these things before you get married, will bring you a world of peace down the line.

5. Expectations: Before you get married, talk about where you see your marriage in the short-term and long term future. Also, talk about where you see yourself. Communicating about this early on will help you two work toward fulfilling each other's expectations in your marriage.

6. Sex: If you are a person who needs sex on a daily basis, your future life partner should know this in advance. If you have expectations in the bedroom, communicate openly about your needs. Not being on the same page about sex in your marriage can open up the door to a lot of hurt.

7. Beliefs: Be open about your religious beliefs. The two of you need to determine if you will attend church as a couple or as a family. You need to talk about the impact that religion will have in the upbringing of your children. Are you willing to compromise your religious beliefs or are you unyielding in your religion.

8. Location: You need to discuss where you will reside after you are married. Do you want to live in another city?

Communicating about these things before your are married will help you build a solid foundation for your marriage, or may help your realize that the person your are marrying may not be right for you.